Enjoy sex most when stressed

Kimbweka · 2010-06-14T08:56:25+00:00

Most women take sexual rejection very personally, especially if their sense of self-worth is linked to love and acceptance from their partner. When a sexual advance by a woman is turned down by her man, she views herself as being an inadequate lover. She believes that her lovability is defined by the affection she receives from her partner. Meltdown in bed The current trend of sexless marriages, due to lowered self-esteem of men facing a financial crisis and resultant stress, is leading to varied reactions in women. Some working women whore aware of the global crisis, show greater empathy and do not blame their partner for the financial situation, or the subsequent lack of interest in sex. Instead, they assume the role of a sounding board, and also attempt to motivate them to be optimistic and deal with the crisis together. On the other hand, some women add to their husbands woes by being demanding, aggressive and blaming them for the loss of both, money and sex and launch a direct attack on their partners manhood. This only makes matters worse. The woman, who has shoved a guilt-trip down her husbands throat, can be rest assured that the financial crises may end, but her sex life will never improve. Women need to understand is that its a healthy and relaxed mind thats important for mutually satisfying physical intimacy. Self-worth factor Some women get confused by the sudden withdrawal of sex, get depressed and might suspect that their husband is having an extra-marital affair. Such anxious women must de-link affection and physical intimacy, and be educated about temporary psychological impotence stemming from increased stress. In some cases, over-consumption of alcohol can be a problem, especially with those who try to deal with stress via alcohol. This takes a huge toll on the relationship, as the woman finds it difficult to empathise with a husband who gets drunk every night, whines about problems, and doesnt wish to address the crisis in a logical manner. In such a condition, marriage counselling helps the couple understand each others emotional needs. Also, stress counselling helps the man deal with the financial and sexual lull in life. A man can be taught to reach out and be sensitive to his wifes needs, and the woman can be educated to not make it all about herself, be emotionally available and not use the husbands vulnerability against him. The two must remember that this a temporary phase and how they handle it decides the future of the relationship. Moreover, the emotional intimacy during this time can strengthen their relationship, and there can be some surprising moments of physical intimacy, emerging from such emotional bonding. Coping with it A wife could use these troubled times to build emotional intimacy and companionship, educate herself about the finer details of her mans problem and engage him in the small joys of life, such as sharing the childs achievements in school. She could engage in non-sexual touching like a back rub or head massage to bond. She shouldnt mind her husband wanting to spend time with his colleagues who enlighten him on ways to deal with the problem, and tell him hes not alone. Tell him that both of you will get through it together, and that you believe in him. Ensure that he doesnt blame himself. Help him accept uncertainties and forgive himself for human errors, if any. She can help de-stigmatise seeking professional help. If he is depressed, accompany him to a counsellor. She could identify what brings him joy. Small things such as cooking his favourite meal can help him. At times, she could take the lead, touch him sensually, with no pressure to perform, and see if he wants to take it forward. The woman, of course, has her own emotional and physical needs. She could channelise her libido into work or creative pursuits

Thread starter Kimbweka
Start date Jun 14, 2010

Kimbweka

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